[clyte]

I'm in love with my best friend we have been best friends for over 15 years and have had a more intimate relationship on and off for a couple years. For her, I think the intimate part is fun and frolic, but for me -- I feel a much deeper connection. I'm probably just being stupid... someone smack some sense into me please?

[dempsey]

Nope, I say go for it*)!!! Go for Love.

[helme]

I agree with newts Sounds like she's already made her decision, more or less. I think you should hold out for someone who has that same deep feeling and connect toward you. Life's too short not to be loved to the fullest!

[parkins]

Not stupid but proceed with caution. I tried having something casual one summer with one of my oldest friends. Unfortunately, she couldn't leave it at that, and our friendship has never been the same. My guess is that if your friend wanted something more than "fun and frolic" she would have told you by now. Sorry. I hope it works out for the best one way or another.

[trogdon]

I sort of agree *sigh*

[schabacker]

Are you willing to risk the friendship? That is the chance you are taking, you need to really think this thru and realize that is one of the risk you are taking. Personally, I am not sure I would risk my relationship that I had developed for 15 years with somebody I considered my best friend simply to get laid. I would say buy a new vibrator and keep your friend and I consider myself a pretty big risk taker. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.

[Luis]

sounds like the first love of my life awwww but in my case it didn't have a good ending :( I say "go for it" though

[Essam]

thank you to the serious advice givers and a big WTF to the negs??? You don't like that I'm saying I'm in love with someone and I think I'm probably making a mistake? Then say so. I don't get what the issue is.

[scholten]

negs are kind of like fight club... first rule, don't talk about them. good luck!

[geffre]

I'm sorry, but that doesn't make any sense

[machowski]

Talk to her Since you are best friends, it would be best to discuss with her what her feelings are. You'll probably also need to take time to decide whether you are comfortable continuing the intimate portions of the relationship knowing that she doesn't feel the connection the same way you do. Only you know whether it's worth it or not. My friend and I are currently in the process going back to just being friends after spending nine months in an intimate friendship. For her, it was basiy a friends-with-benefits arrangement; for me, it was more emotional. Both of us talked from the beginning about what we wanted, and we knew and understood that the physical aspect of the relationship was temporary. Open communication throughout has been key to easing the transition back to a non-sexual friendship.